Hello lovely soul,

I’m not sure about you, but September was a big and emotionally charged month for me. I took a big sigh of relief as this month’s message came through as I knew just how much I needed it.

May you receive October’s guidance and feel the support and love I am sending with it to you.

Big love coming your way,

Erin x

Be gentle with yourself

Sometimes we go so hard at our life, with such force and gusto that we forget that sometimes stillness and rest can be just as important for our growth.

You might be finding lately that no matter how hard you work at things they still aren’t turning out exactly how you want them to and you’re being reminded this month that it’s totally ok.

It’s alright not to have things done perfectly.

It’s completely reasonable that sometimes you won’t get everything done on time.

In fact, it’s even acceptable if some things don’t even get done at all.

You are human.

We didn’t come here to robotically work our way through tasks just to be able to say that we did them, and yet, how often does it feel like that’s exactly what we’re doing?

Give yourself some permission this month to not do some of those things that really get you down or stress you out.

Follow that thread of doubt or fear that is full of explanations as to why you couldn’t possibly not do that thing.

Whatever that thing is.

Really allow yourself to unravel and unwind the story that you’ve told yourself about it.

What would it mean if I didn’t do that thing just this once?

Who would judge me?

Would I judge myself?

Am I just afraid that someone will think less of me, or that I’ll get in trouble, or that it’ll make someone else mad?

Sometimes it’s really important to give yourself that leave pass that says, “You know what? The world isn’t going to fall apart if I don’t do that today.”

And often, when we give ourselves permission not to do something, when we really gives ourselves a choice, the charge that we felt suddenly seems to disappear.

Not only that, but stepping back for a moment allows for a higher perspective. It enables us to do a little assessment on the way that we have been doing things and gives us an opportunity to make some adjustments where they might be needed.

It might be as simple as saying to yourself, “You’ve done enough today. You don’t need to go home and cook an elaborate meal for everyone. We can just grab takeaway.”

That choice may seem inconsequential but giving yourself a break from time to time actually creates really positive breathing space.

Or perhaps you might decide today you’re not going to mentally attack yourself for not going to the gym / cleaning the house / (you fill in the blank).

Maybe instead you’ll choose to say some really nice things to yourself about how grateful you are that your incredible legs carry you, or remind yourself of what are loyal and loving friend you are to the people you care about most.

I can bet that there’s at least one thing right now that comes to mind for you.

Something that you could go easy on yourself about, or that you could give yourself permission to opt out of just this once.

Because in these acts of acceptance and forgiveness we are fostering a greater, more loving relationship with ourselves.

We are reconnecting with the part of us that is universal and divine.

We are remembering that at the end of the day we are a soul in a human body just doing the very best we can.

Repeat this three times silently in your mind, or out loud if it feels appropriate:

“Even though I don’t always get things right, I am doing the very best that I can. It is ok for me to be gentle with myself and it is safe to take a break. By stepping back, I can see the clearer picture and make the best choices for my life. I give thanks.”

So love that body and soul today and know that you’re doing a really great job.

It’s ok not to get it right every time and it’s more than ok to take a break.

Be kind to you. 

With love.

Xx

Card deck: Nature’s Whispers by Angela Hartfield